Kiss Me Through Skype

My advice goes to my roommate who is working on a long-distance relationship. She is frustrated because she feels that her boyfriend does not show her enough affection, even when they're together. She's talked to him multiple times about it, and can't seem to get it through to him that she needs more.

I know some of you are probably thinking, why does she have to be so needy? Well, what you fail to understand is that everybody has their own "love language," where they have personal things that make them feel loved, and they show love in return. For some people, it's sending a little texts once or twice a day when they're not with their significant other. For others it might be making dinner for them, or doing a household chore so that their partner won't have to later. For some people, they need the extra little hug, or the kiss on the cheek to reassure them that they are loved, and they will want to reciprocate those actions. Sometimes not getting those little things that you need in a relationship to be happy can actually end the relationship all together.

My advice; you have to determine if this is what you NEED to make the relationship work. Though it is different for a long distance relationship because you aren't able to physically touch the person, there are other ways of showing affection. If this is what needs to happen for you to feel like you are in a loving relationship, and he(or she) can't give it to you, maybe it's not meant to be. It's the smaller things that make people compatible, much more so than the big picture things (like your occupation or where you're from). As hard as it might be to face, sometimes these things aren't meant to be, no matter how badly you want to make them work.
While you are unable to be selfish when making a relationship work, you are allowed to be a little selfish when you determine WHAT makes your relationship work, though realize that often, relationships are not 50/50. You have to be flexible and sacrifice from time to time, but not all the time.